Cindylouwho - I'm sorry to hear about your father's death. I'm sure this brings on a whole bunch of unexpected things that have to be dealt with soon. Yes, breathe and exhale and take time for you too.
Maybe you can just make a list of what makes you happy at this time of year and just try to do those things so you don't feel like you missed out on the whole holiday season.
My week is a little off kilter. Pertussis is going through the school and we are waiting results from a Pertussis swab test for one of my daughters. In between medical visits, I managed to make three Thanksgiving side dishes and put them in the freezer. I have one more to make but at this rate, it will be next week. I got the turkey and the rest of the Thanksgiving items needed. Dry mixes for baking cookies are assembled. I ordered some Christmas gifts but have yet to get to the wrapping.