I'm really sorry if this is in the wrong section, it's sort of Christmas related, but it's not along the happy theme as all the other threads! Basically, I'm asking for advice on how to tell a family member that she isn't welcome at our house on Christmas day this year. Last year she ruined Christmas for us all, and left my two children upset and scared. Reading that back, I shouldn't have to justify anything to her, as a normal person wouldn't need reminding/telling that she isn't invited to Christmas after such behaviour. BUT, she believes her behaviour is normal and acceptable, and therefore I'm going to have to speak to her beforehand. Again, I am sorry if this is in the wrong section. I weren't sure where else to post!