How does your family do the gift exchange? My family is pretty big. My dad has three brothers and they all have kids etc. We usually draw names and have a children gift exchange and an adult gift exchange. The thing is my family mainily has nov-dec birthdays so on top of getting christmas gifts we get birthday gifts to and its getting to be quit costly, a lot of us our struggling right now- My cousins are all pre teens-I'm the oldest out of the group of cousins(i'm 30) and I feel that christmas should be about more than getting presents and i want to teach my younger children that. I had asked my grandma if we could so something different for the exchange. I thought that we could do it for families- one family draw another families name and get the whole family something- or we could do a white elephant exchange. Now I am worried if my grandma brings this up the rest of my family will find out and it will make them upset. Do you guys have any other ideas???