Please take a moment to step into a drama I lived in this past Fall. Now it is Christmas and I have to figure out if our family is buying gifts for the kids that were involved.
We've been close to a particular family for some years now -- a relationship that developed because our kids were friends (Tweens). They've had hard times and we have made sure their kids had presents and a tree to put them under. They've spent much time in our home and at one point it almost felt like we were one family.
Then over the summer (while we were gone) a new girl moves to town. A mean girl. (Like the one in the movie). Mean girl decides she likes these kids and tells them not to hang out with OUR kids -- just her. This girl was pretty popular at the time, and made quite the impression on them. She is a bully. One moment our kids were best friends, the next those kids won't even talk to mine (Its crazy - straight out of a movie). Our kids (particularly DD) are hurt. They have other friends but man, these kids were CLOSE. The parents were in denial even though I spoke to them. Figured they were just not spending as much time together. But it was MORE than that. These kids became mean. But never in front of me. Only to my kids. They completely turned their backs on them and ignored them.
Our families have not spent any time together since. Now the holidays are coming and the parents are reaching out to say Hello (and hinting about Christmas).
My husband and I have always done the right thing. We try to be Christian. If they were REALLY struggling, we would help, no question. But they are in better financial shape and the need for is not as clear this year. Help me. How do I handle this? Are we giving these kids gifts? What do you do when kids have been naughty? *sigh*
We've been close to a particular family for some years now -- a relationship that developed because our kids were friends (Tweens). They've had hard times and we have made sure their kids had presents and a tree to put them under. They've spent much time in our home and at one point it almost felt like we were one family.
Then over the summer (while we were gone) a new girl moves to town. A mean girl. (Like the one in the movie). Mean girl decides she likes these kids and tells them not to hang out with OUR kids -- just her. This girl was pretty popular at the time, and made quite the impression on them. She is a bully. One moment our kids were best friends, the next those kids won't even talk to mine (Its crazy - straight out of a movie). Our kids (particularly DD) are hurt. They have other friends but man, these kids were CLOSE. The parents were in denial even though I spoke to them. Figured they were just not spending as much time together. But it was MORE than that. These kids became mean. But never in front of me. Only to my kids. They completely turned their backs on them and ignored them.
Our families have not spent any time together since. Now the holidays are coming and the parents are reaching out to say Hello (and hinting about Christmas).
My husband and I have always done the right thing. We try to be Christian. If they were REALLY struggling, we would help, no question. But they are in better financial shape and the need for is not as clear this year. Help me. How do I handle this? Are we giving these kids gifts? What do you do when kids have been naughty? *sigh*