UGH!
We've had Thanksgiving at our house for many years. The last few years it has only been my family(5), dmil, Mom, Dad and my brother. My sister's family(4) comes every other year. Since it is mostly my family, Thanksgiving has been more relaxed and not stressful. I just found out my dfil and dh's stepmom are coming too this year, which is perfectly fine. Now dh just called and said his younger brother, and nephew are coming too, but mentioned that his older brother, dsil, dsil's son, dsil's brother, dsil's mother and a slim possibility this may also mean dsil's daughter and daughter's fiance are asking about Thanksgiving too. Dh isn't very close to his brother's, we see them at most once a year. I don't know dsil at all and certainly not her kids, brother, mom and daughters fiance.
The thing is this... I was really thinking Thanksgiving would just be how it has been, and was really glad. We have those darn hockey tournaments every weekend beginning the day after Thanksgiving until Christmas. Since we have the weekend before Thanksgiving off, I REALLY wanted to just relax and have a little fun putting up my Christmas decorations instead of cramming it in around the hockey tournaments. I was really looking foreward to this. I feel like it was the only relaxing time I was really going to have. If everyone comes though, I won't feel like I can do this. I'll feel kind of funny having Christmas decorations out with people I don't know. I also know I will be more stressed about the house being more clean and feel like bringing all the decorations out is the last thing I should be doing. This of course also means extra food and I'm really not looking foreward to having so many people then having to wake up at 4:00AM the next morning.
Dfil and stepmom coming is perfectly fine. I feel sorry for youngest dbil since he has had a really rough time with his marriage and looks like he will be divorcing, so I am glad to have him here. I like oldest dbil too and since we never see him, would feel like I couldn't tell him no, but the whole dynamics of dsil's whole family coming too is what upsets me....but then I think........it's really most likely 2 people that have never been to our house for Thanksgiving before, but that was several years ago. Would you say anything or just suck it up? Do you think I should still decorate anyway? It's just not what I wanted and I am bummed.
We've had Thanksgiving at our house for many years. The last few years it has only been my family(5), dmil, Mom, Dad and my brother. My sister's family(4) comes every other year. Since it is mostly my family, Thanksgiving has been more relaxed and not stressful. I just found out my dfil and dh's stepmom are coming too this year, which is perfectly fine. Now dh just called and said his younger brother, and nephew are coming too, but mentioned that his older brother, dsil, dsil's son, dsil's brother, dsil's mother and a slim possibility this may also mean dsil's daughter and daughter's fiance are asking about Thanksgiving too. Dh isn't very close to his brother's, we see them at most once a year. I don't know dsil at all and certainly not her kids, brother, mom and daughters fiance.
The thing is this... I was really thinking Thanksgiving would just be how it has been, and was really glad. We have those darn hockey tournaments every weekend beginning the day after Thanksgiving until Christmas. Since we have the weekend before Thanksgiving off, I REALLY wanted to just relax and have a little fun putting up my Christmas decorations instead of cramming it in around the hockey tournaments. I was really looking foreward to this. I feel like it was the only relaxing time I was really going to have. If everyone comes though, I won't feel like I can do this. I'll feel kind of funny having Christmas decorations out with people I don't know. I also know I will be more stressed about the house being more clean and feel like bringing all the decorations out is the last thing I should be doing. This of course also means extra food and I'm really not looking foreward to having so many people then having to wake up at 4:00AM the next morning.
Dfil and stepmom coming is perfectly fine. I feel sorry for youngest dbil since he has had a really rough time with his marriage and looks like he will be divorcing, so I am glad to have him here. I like oldest dbil too and since we never see him, would feel like I couldn't tell him no, but the whole dynamics of dsil's whole family coming too is what upsets me....but then I think........it's really most likely 2 people that have never been to our house for Thanksgiving before, but that was several years ago. Would you say anything or just suck it up? Do you think I should still decorate anyway? It's just not what I wanted and I am bummed.