Christmascreations -- you feel like your life has been turned upside down BECAUSE your life HAS been turned upside down!!! You completely changed your living arrangements. And you added a lot of important relationships into your life (like your Dad and all your extended family in Florida). PLUS you are working so many hours. Plus, your boys are involved in sports (a very good thing!) which takes lots of time and logistics.
Everyone's life is at different stages. The ENTIRE time my three children were growing up, I basically DID NOT DO housework!!! There was no time. Oh, I did laundry (lots) and cooking and dishes. And lots of stash and dash. I worked and drove the kids around to activities all the time.
And you know what -- I do not regret one single minute of living in the chaos!! I really hate chaos. BUT - it was more important to do the things I did with my children - instead of housework. I am sure that plenty of people could handle it all, and keep the house great. I couldn't. And I didn't. And NOW - that it is all past - I don't care. I was with all three children together recently. We were talking about their growing up years. My failings are evident to everyone. I started to apologize and one of the children said, "That doesn't matter, mom. What if you hadn't loved us enough? THAT would have mattered."