I think I'm going to try two words in 2022, at least initially -- patience and purge (as in things, people, groups, etc. that don't bring me joy or have changed and no longer align with my goals, needs, and desires).
A little background on how I came to select these two words and how they relate to a single goal ...
I began working on this yesterday, initially by bighting my tongue when a post I made in a FB group for retired women was removed by the moderator. Apparently, it was against the rules to discuss when to take down your Christmas decorations, and whether you wait until after "Little Christmas" (Epiphany) or not. No specific religion was mentioned (as that would break a rule), but the moderator apparently thought otherwise. Yet, there are posts on this FB page discussing adultery; physical and mental abuse by a spouse; divorce over 65; dealing with alcoholic and drug addicted spouses, children, grandchildren; dealing with suicide and other sudden death; etc But, you apparently can't discuss faith-based holidays. That was the last straw.
I worked on my patience with the moderator, and ultimately decided that the group had changed too much from when I first joined it. It no longer supported my needs, and was causing me more stress that I needed from a group of women I really don't know (though some of us have met in person over lunch). So, I sent a message to the group of local women with whom I connected through the group, letting them know of my decision. They can choose to remain FB friends or not. One replied that she's been booted from the group and had to plead her case to get back in; a second simply acknowledged my message, but gave a "thumbs up" on each message in the string. At least, I don't feel like I'm alone in how I was feeling. All I can say is that THIS group is totally opposite of the FB group -- so THANK YOU!!!
So, patience and purging in 2022 it is!
